Dear Dr. Faizal,
I believe that I have a low sex drive. My husband desires sex more frequently than I do. I am usually interested before & after my cycle. Other than that I am usually ready to go sleep. I work full time and have a 3 year old son. Is there something I can do to improve my drive? My Spouse is EXTREMELY frustrated. I do love him and don’t have a problem with arousal or sex itself, but in my mind, it’s more of a chore sometimes.
Dr. Faizal’s Answer:
When the body is tired, it is difficult, if not impossible, to have the desire for sexual intercourse. Do not be so hard on yourself. Working full-time and taking care of a three-year old is like likely to drain anyone. Eating a well-balanced diet and getting enough exercise would help your energy levels. Also, on those days when you are not “in the mood” but your husband is “extremely frustrated”, how about helping him out with oral sex or by masturbating him. This takes less energy, and I’m certain he would not complain.